Having lived so dearly close to death, I find myself so ravenously in want of living. In want of being alive. The kind of alive that meant while you were here, you really were. I have been in odd health – recently. And being what I call a fearmonger that I might be, I have wondered what dying so young and unfulfilled would be like. Truly sad – however I don’t think sadness describes...
A while ago, I was having one of those casual phone chats with a colleague when she dropped a statement that stopped me in my tracks. She said, “I don’t think I’m ready for this whole marriage-and-motherhood thing. Being a mother just halts your life goals—you don’t get to achieve anything.” Normally, I’ll just listen. After all, I’m a guy; how could I possibly relate to the incredible sacrifices...
You know that moment when someone cheerfully says, “I just need to find balance,” and you resist the urge to ask, “Where exactly are you buying yours from?” Because honestly, if work-life balance were a tangible thing, it would probably be sold out on Jumia or hoarded by the universe’s overachievers. The phrase “work-life balance” sounds so elegant—like a peaceful yoga pose. But in reality, it...
Kemi Adetiba did a wonderful story with to kill a monkey. In a long time, this was the first Nigerian work I had seen with actual lines, people saying words that mean something in the context they spoke about. The cinematography has to be one of the best from the Nigeria scene in recent memory. I hope this becomes the benchmark of a standard and the movie industry grows to rival the music...
Living in Lagos is living a dream – sometimes it is nightmarish. The food scene here goes from chaos, to heat, to spice and to love shared over a meal. Sometimes it is healing a heartbreak or warmth thawing the ice of sorrow. The other times it is just diarrhea trying to take your life – because you have eaten the wrong meal If you earn around, slightly or below NGN 250K you have no...
When watching movies or reading about famous people, you frequently hear and read of people who are vegetarians by choice. Finding Nigerians who are vegetarians by choice is akin to finding needle in a haystack. You would find I am sure if you looked, but the higher likely hood would be finding people who are vegetarians, either for health or religious based reasons. The closest an average...
Cooking is an art you learn is region and culture specific -across tribes of same people and people of different continents and race. And so is our taste buds. Growing up around different Nigerian states has your taste buds exploring the ranges of spices, flavour and culinary distinctiveness the Nigerian community has to offer.Umami, sweet, bitter, spicy, fruity – you name it, there is not...
There’s a powerful idea that has quietly shaped the lives of successful people across every field: at any point in life, you’ll almost always have two out of three things — time, money, and knowledge. Rarely do we have all three at once, and that’s not a disadvantage. In fact, the real secret lies in learning how to use the two you do have to gain the third. Think about it. If you have...
Chizoba was it? Maybe Chibuzo. My first experience with love, like most humans, would be with receiving love and care from my parents, the elders in my family then my siblings. But that is expected, it is the way humans are. My first experience with love in a way that was visceral would be when I was 6. The northern architecture is beautiful, so much so that you must experience it to understand...
The kind so clearly different from grief. In that sadness lies regrets. The regrets from having not made those mistakes. Because now I would never know. Not destruction. I do not seek destruction. Hindsight give inference For the choices that should have been. The mistakes to have been made. So regret gives sadness And sadness enlightenment. Make some mistakes. Live a little Small...