I sometimes wonder when we learned impossibility. Not when we discovered that some things were difficult. Not when we understood that life has limitations. But when did we begin to look at something we wanted to do and convince ourselves that it could not be done? I thought about this recently while watching someone struggle to ride a bicycle. It reminded me of something almost embarrassing about...
There is something humbling about being human. No matter how much we accomplish, there is always something left undone. No matter how much we learn, there is always something we do not know. And no matter how certain we become about who we are, life has a way of showing us that we are still becoming. Perhaps that is one of the great truths of life: Much to do. Much to learn. Much to be. Much to...
If someone walked up to you today and asked, “How many steps can you comfortably walk in a day?” You’d probably say somewhere between 5,000 and 10,000 steps. If you’re anything like me, even hitting 10,000 feels like an achievement. Now imagine they smile and say, “I’ll give you ₦2 million if you can walk 40,000 steps today.” Suddenly, 40,000 steps don’t sound impossible anymore. You’d start...
People treat every small lie like it’s a big deal. “I’m fine.” “You look great.” “Sorry, I’ve just been busy.” We act like these little lies are just as bad as the big ones. But at the same time, the big lies — the ones that really hurt someone — often get ignored. That’s the wrong way round. Not all lies are the same. Telling a friend you like their new haircut, when you don’t, hurts no one...
I used to believe pain had a way of introducing itself. I thought suffering knocked loudly enough for everyone to hear. I thought injustice naturally drew attention the way smoke draws eyes to fire. In my mind, if something was unfair enough, people would stop what they were doing, turn around, and care. But life has a way of removing rose-colored glasses. It teaches you that people often notice...
I am not sure how to start, because it feels like one of those stories that should start with “Once upon a time” simply because it’s been a really long time since I came here. And if you’re reading this, in 2026 you might have noticed the silence in 2025. The past year felt like it went on for a very long time, a long time of not using my brain to make full use of my heart. Exactly...
If there’s anything life has consistently taught me, it’s this: no matter how strong, intelligent, or prepared you think you are, some days will still humble you. And that’s okay. I have had days when everything aligned perfectly, work flowed smoothly, conversations were light, and ideas came with ease. Those are the days you almost feel like life is giving you a gentle pat on the back...
Sometimes life feels like a storm you didn’t see coming. You are doing everything right, yet the wind keeps shifting, pushing you to the edge of what you think you can handle. I have learned that those moments aren’t there to break us. They are there to teach us how to bend. Lately, I’ve been thinking about what it really means to grow. Not just to move forward or climb higher, but to grow; in...
Having lived so dearly close to death, I find myself so ravenously in want of living. In want of being alive. The kind of alive that meant while you were here, you really were. I have been in odd health – recently. And being what I call a fearmonger that I might be, I have wondered what dying so young and unfulfilled would be like. Truly sad – however I don’t think sadness describes...
You know that moment when someone cheerfully says, “I just need to find balance,” and you resist the urge to ask, “Where exactly are you buying yours from?” Because honestly, if work-life balance were a tangible thing, it would probably be sold out on Jumia or hoarded by the universe’s overachievers. The phrase “work-life balance” sounds so elegant—like a peaceful yoga pose. But in reality, it...