Violence might not be the answer; but it is always an answer Yesterday might have been one of the few days I said the most prayer while zoned out. My eyes caught the speedometer, already 3 digits, something is missing. Where is it? What the hell? How come? No! no! no! Moving at such speed means braking distance is never your friend. I watched… passing 6, 9, more meters before the bike came to a...
Some scars don’t look like scars. They don’t always sit on the skin or show up in obvious ways. Some show up in how we go quiet when we are overwhelmed. Some show up in the way we laugh a little too quickly so nobody asks the next question. Some show up in how we keep moving like nothing happened, even when something did. And the truth is, most people are walking around with them. Not everything...
Home has never been just one place. For some people, it’s a house with a gate and a familiar street. For me, home shifts. It moves. It glows from a screen at 2 a.m. It buzzes inside a WhatsApp group chat where laughter and voice notes feel like family. It lives in my little brother’s narrow shoulders, not broad, not strong in the traditional sense, but steady, warm, and familiar with shared...
“Vires acquirit eundo.” We gather strength as we go. From the heights of timelessness, where the dust of moments settles and the chaos of life arranges itself into gentle symmetry, there exists a story. Not of a god, nor of a prophet, but of a young wanderer—a hero. One among millions. The kind who moves through life not in straight lines, but in spirals, returning again and again to the same...
I am not sure how to start, because it feels like one of those stories that should start with “Once upon a time” simply because it’s been a really long time since I came here. And if you’re reading this, in 2026 you might have noticed the silence in 2025. The past year felt like it went on for a very long time, a long time of not using my brain to make full use of my heart. Exactly...
It was my first time leaving the northern part of Nigeria. All it took was a random call from a childhood friend. “What’s up, bro?” he said. “The lady I work for needs extra hands at her store, and I couldn’t think of a better partner than you. Are you game?” Although I had always wanted to visit Lagos, my idea of the city was shaped mainly by Nigerian movies—flashy scenes, fast lives, endless...
If there’s anything life has consistently taught me, it’s this: no matter how strong, intelligent, or prepared you think you are, some days will still humble you. And that’s okay. I have had days when everything aligned perfectly, work flowed smoothly, conversations were light, and ideas came with ease. Those are the days you almost feel like life is giving you a gentle pat on the back...
Sometimes life feels like a storm you didn’t see coming. You are doing everything right, yet the wind keeps shifting, pushing you to the edge of what you think you can handle. I have learned that those moments aren’t there to break us. They are there to teach us how to bend. Lately, I’ve been thinking about what it really means to grow. Not just to move forward or climb higher, but to grow; in...
Having lived so dearly close to death, I find myself so ravenously in want of living. In want of being alive. The kind of alive that meant while you were here, you really were. I have been in odd health – recently. And being what I call a fearmonger that I might be, I have wondered what dying so young and unfulfilled would be like. Truly sad – however I don’t think sadness describes...
A while ago, I was having one of those casual phone chats with a colleague when she dropped a statement that stopped me in my tracks. She said, “I don’t think I’m ready for this whole marriage-and-motherhood thing. Being a mother just halts your life goals—you don’t get to achieve anything.” Normally, I’ll just listen. After all, I’m a guy; how could I possibly relate to the incredible sacrifices...