Sometimes life feels like a storm you didn’t see coming. You are doing everything right, yet the wind keeps shifting, pushing you to the edge of what you think you can handle. I have learned that those moments aren’t there to break us. They are there to teach us how to bend. Lately, I’ve been thinking about what it really means to grow. Not just to move forward or climb higher, but to grow; in...
Having lived so dearly close to death, I find myself so ravenously in want of living. In want of being alive. The kind of alive that meant while you were here, you really were. I have been in odd health – recently. And being what I call a fearmonger that I might be, I have wondered what dying so young and unfulfilled would be like. Truly sad – however I don’t think sadness describes...
A while ago, I was having one of those casual phone chats with a colleague when she dropped a statement that stopped me in my tracks. She said, “I don’t think I’m ready for this whole marriage-and-motherhood thing. Being a mother just halts your life goals—you don’t get to achieve anything.” Normally, I’ll just listen. After all, I’m a guy; how could I possibly relate to the incredible sacrifices...
You know that moment when someone cheerfully says, “I just need to find balance,” and you resist the urge to ask, “Where exactly are you buying yours from?” Because honestly, if work-life balance were a tangible thing, it would probably be sold out on Jumia or hoarded by the universe’s overachievers. The phrase “work-life balance” sounds so elegant—like a peaceful yoga pose. But in reality, it...
Kemi Adetiba did a wonderful story with to kill a monkey. In a long time, this was the first Nigerian work I had seen with actual lines, people saying words that mean something in the context they spoke about. The cinematography has to be one of the best from the Nigeria scene in recent memory. I hope this becomes the benchmark of a standard and the movie industry grows to rival the music...
Living in Lagos is living a dream – sometimes it is nightmarish. The food scene here goes from chaos, to heat, to spice and to love shared over a meal. Sometimes it is healing a heartbreak or warmth thawing the ice of sorrow. The other times it is just diarrhea trying to take your life – because you have eaten the wrong meal If you earn around, slightly or below NGN 250K you have no...
When watching movies or reading about famous people, you frequently hear and read of people who are vegetarians by choice. Finding Nigerians who are vegetarians by choice is akin to finding needle in a haystack. You would find I am sure if you looked, but the higher likely hood would be finding people who are vegetarians, either for health or religious based reasons. The closest an average...
Cooking is an art you learn is region and culture specific -across tribes of same people and people of different continents and race. And so is our taste buds. Growing up around different Nigerian states has your taste buds exploring the ranges of spices, flavour and culinary distinctiveness the Nigerian community has to offer.Umami, sweet, bitter, spicy, fruity – you name it, there is not...
Chizoba was it? Maybe Chibuzo. My first experience with love, like most humans, would be with receiving love and care from my parents, the elders in my family then my siblings. But that is expected, it is the way humans are. My first experience with love in a way that was visceral would be when I was 6. The northern architecture is beautiful, so much so that you must experience it to understand...
The Two Silent Thieves Robbing Your Everyday Joy We all know the iconic Easter scene: Jesus on the cross, bounded by two thieves. It’s a powerful image from Scripture, but have you ever considered how it mirrors the subtle battles we face every single day? Stay with me for a moment. Imagine those two thieves aren’t just figures from history, but representations of the very things that...